Thanks Dartanion (This is my new twitter cyber boy friend), but saddly I know.
Bob Berkowitz author of “He’s Just Not up for it Anymore” had men take an anonymous survey to determine why he is not up for it anymore and here is what men said:
68% – She is not sexually adventurous enough for me
61% – She does not seem to enjoy sex
48% – I am interested in sex with others, but not with my wife (wonder how many politicians fall here)
44% – I am angry at her
41% – I am bored ( could be solved if first item was also not the case)
40% – She is depressed (Ladies wtf – why are you depressed?)
38% – She has gained a significant amount of weight
34% – I am depressed
32% – I no longer find her physically attractive
30% – I suffer from erectile dysfunction
28% – I lost interest and I don’t know why
25% – I prefer to masturbate
25% – I prefer to watch pornography online and masturbate
21% – I am on medication that lowered my libido
20% – I am/was having an affair
16% – I suffer from premature ejaculation
15% – I am having difficulty achieving orgasm
14% – I am too tired
9% – She is/was having an affair
3% – I wasn’t interested in sex to begin with (NEWS FLASH – Men do not always enjoy sex, not many but there are some)
1% – I am gay
* I am not sure how the percentages were calculated since this does not add up to 100% it exceeds it. Regardless, I hope this survey causes some folks to re-shift their thinking and change their view.
No, my boyfriend is not gay! Do you know how humiliating it is to have to address this? It is statistically improbable given that less then 1% of the male population is gay.
You may think you know your partners reasons for voluntary celibacy, but we are really only guessing – this is like layers of an onion – either way a sexless relationship is embarrassing and painful; and when the responsibility get’s shifted on you, away from from them, even worse.
~CVH
